So beth, I am a bit worried about your point that you don't like using them for long reading stretches. Grading is pretty much a long long stretch of reading, with lots of breaks for laundry, snacking, etc. I was thinking switching glasses between tasks would get onerous, but if the progressives aren't great for long reading stretches, maybe that's a bigger issue.

I may have posted about this here before, but I have a recommendation for a lazy/mindless yet useful task, especially interesting for people who are into food or crowdsourcing: Help the NYPL transcribe their collection of old menus here: [link]

Thanks, David. I hope (and expect) that is the way she would see it too.

Also, I was never baptized, so I am not sure how I have a godmother.

Yeah, I think it's a term that gets used a lot of different ways. M was raised Catholic, and to him the word "godmother" has a very specific religious meaning, which is not the meaning we intend (since we won't be raising our kids Catholic, or in any other particular religious tradition). My parents told my brother and me when we were growing up that our aunt A and uncle G were our godparents, by which they meant that A and G would raise us if anything happened to our parents. That isn't the meaning we intend either. What we're trying to do is encourage, and formalize, in a way, a special relationship between T and our children. That's the way in which many of my friends who have recently become parents have used the term, but I don't know how common that particular meaning is.

Y'all, I had a lovely smonster + amyth + Calli + non-buffista but buffista-adjacent and of-the-nerd-tribe friends! Yummy sushi and I can report that while NC misses our smonster TERRIBLY she is clearly made for nawlins and it for her and she's looking and sounding fabulous and happy there.

So beth, I am a bit worried about your point that you don't like using them for long reading stretches

I have small glasses -- the reading area is not very big -- which is something that can be adjusted . When you get them - you need to talk to you eyedoctor about what you do

and I have never worn my glasses for reading, but I think I could use them now esp for things like graphic novels.

Help the NYPL transcribe their collection of old menus here: [link]

I keep meaning to do that! Old menus are fascinating.

What we're trying to do is encourage, and formalize, in a way, a special relationship between T and our children.

I think that's a lovely thing to do, and I think a lot of people do it that way now. My Aunt Kay is sort of my unofficial godmother in the same way (she's my mom's best friend from college, not a relation, but I've always called her Aunt Kay).

Y'all, I had a lovely smonster + amyth + Calli + non-buffista but buffista-adjacent and of-the-nerd-tribe friends!

SO JEALOUS! But so glad to hear that a wonderful time was had by all!

I have god parents - I don't know them well and they havent been a big part of my life - but they have been a big part of my parents life - so they are important people in my parents life that aren't family. I've met them a few times as an adult, I like them

I keep meaning to do that! Old menus are fascinating.

It's nice because you can just do five minutes. Or an hour.

In terms of bifocals progressive. People vary in how they adjust. My mom has trifocals and they work fine for her. I tried bifocals and progressive both. I just could not adjust and ended up with separate distance and reading. Most people adjust fine, a few don't and you can't predict in advance which is which. Bifocals and progressive are cheaper than separate pairs (at least for prescriptions as strong as mine). I'd try the progressive or a bifocal but only with the understanding with the optomerist that you can return them for your money back and buy two pairs instead of they don't work out. Most optometrists will agree to that.