Ew, ew, ew, Zenkitty. You are totally entitled to be freaked out. And if he calls you again and says anything inappropriate, call the company.

There are men out there who get off on making women uncomfortable like that: I don't know whether they think it's just sexual tension, or because it's just a fun display of their "manly power", but it's totally inappropriate, especially in that situation.

I don't know anyone in this town, certainly not anyone I could/would call to come over and comfort me when nothing's actually happened and I'm just being pathetic.

I'd call the company if it is posible

they are not coming to comfort you - they would be showing up so you are not alone. You are not in a safe situation

I understand all the good reasons to call the company and I truly don't want to.

I don't feel like I'm not safe. I don't think he's going to pursue now that he's gotten a clear signal that I'm not wanting to - and jesus I really hope I was clear enough when he called me - I'm freaking out not just because of him coming on too strong in a situation when I really did not expect it - I'm freaking because (a) I feel like I "led him on" by not speaking up clearly when I became uncomfortable, the absence of "no" of course being "yes", and (b) because I wasn't able to speak up when I became uncomfortable.

Zenkitty, it sounds like this incident showed you a clear area that you need to work on, and that's a good thing. It's a behavior that can be learned, and now you know you need to learn it. Maybe self-defense classes?

Well, If you don't want to call the company. You need to make a plan rehearse what you you will say if he calls again or shows up . You have too much of the good girl going on to trust your instincts to protect yourself.

I probably sound harsh - but i'm worried

I think I need a good therapist, actually. If I can fucking find one.

beth, you are right. You're not harsh, the reality is.

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