they are not coming to comfort you - they would be showing up so you are not alone. You are not in a safe situation

I understand all the good reasons to call the company and I truly don't want to.

I don't feel like I'm not safe. I don't think he's going to pursue now that he's gotten a clear signal that I'm not wanting to - and jesus I really hope I was clear enough when he called me - I'm freaking out not just because of him coming on too strong in a situation when I really did not expect it - I'm freaking because (a) I feel like I "led him on" by not speaking up clearly when I became uncomfortable, the absence of "no" of course being "yes", and (b) because I wasn't able to speak up when I became uncomfortable.

Zenkitty, it sounds like this incident showed you a clear area that you need to work on, and that's a good thing. It's a behavior that can be learned, and now you know you need to learn it. Maybe self-defense classes?

Well, If you don't want to call the company. You need to make a plan rehearse what you you will say if he calls again or shows up . You have too much of the good girl going on to trust your instincts to protect yourself.

I probably sound harsh - but i'm worried

I think I need a good therapist, actually. If I can fucking find one.

beth, you are right. You're not harsh, the reality is.

Starting next year, ESPN is taking over all coverage of Wimbledon

Calling the company might help ensure he doesn't do this to another woman less able to set safe boundaries.

I am sorely disappointed by the cafe's mango smoothies. You don't put raspberries and cranberries in a mango smoothie. They don't work. Pineapple and banana with orange juice, but make sure there's enough mango to predominate. Save your berries for another smoothie. I did get a free smoothie out of my disappointment, but it still wasn't good enough.

Zen, the thing to remember is, in a professional situation, a good guy is going to know that even if you seem interested, he should give you *his* number and ask you to call him. He would know that taking advantage of having *your* number is not cool. i.e. NOT your fault.

Maybe in a day or two, when you've had a chance to get some distance, you could reconsider calling the company. I hate to think he's behaving like that all over the place, because it's really, really wrong.

You don't put raspberries and cranberries in a mango smoothie.

Oh, definitely not--especially not the cranberries.

I have a whole bunch of fruit at home: cherries, blueberries, peaches, a mango, and a pile of plums from my sister's tree. I think it's smoothies-for-breakfast week. Although I might need bananas to hold it together.

Today is day 1 of the new boss. Haven't seen him yet, though.