I guess I'm so fierce on this issue because I realized that being the angriest dog in the universe just meant my father/family/evil/circumstances won TWICE and I just couldn't have that. In the end, the peace I have in my heart warms me much better than the anger ever did.

That is my feeling about a lot of anger / old resentments, etc. So even if there are people that I won't cry over when they are gone, that is where I try to leave it.

But intersetingly, asthma has my full on anger and hatred. It gets in my way all the time. Diabetes - not so much . I can deal with that one. But there are times when bending over to pick something off the ground can make me out of breath, and that makes me angry. red hot blinding angry. and resentful . and feel that things are unfair. So my current way of dealing with it is to see the anger , feel the anger, acknowledge the anger, and let it go. Letting go is hard, but you don't really breath well when you are angry.

My mother could call her up, if you want. She'll be begging to talk to you, again, Bonny. Let me know if you want a Bad Cop.

Allyson, I hate to say it, but antibiotics may be your only way out of this - a sinus headache that's gone on as long as yours has is probably a sinus infection at its root.

I am so bored at work. I'm looking for some cats to vacuum.

My mother could call her up, if you want. She'll be begging to talk to you, again, Bonny. Let me know if you want a Bad Cop.

It's good to know you have my back, e.

I just wish she could see that the ongoing anger and resistance to change didn't start with her son, or even her marriage.

I sincerely hope the mother can see her way through this. For some of us, it takes years and figuring out who the hell we are while trying to maintain being the mom they need. It took time (re:years of therapy!!) to figure out I was angry with my ex, but he literally cycles with the moon so now I expect it, to being angry with myself for suppressing my orientation to please everyone else. The boy still has good and bad days, but he knows I am his advocate no matter what.

ION I found out this a.m. (thought I suspected for some time now) the kids are being physically bullied by their older, and much larger step-sibling at the ex's house. Ugh. and Shit!

My mom has no patience with stuff like that.

Okay, so the SO talked to the housesitter and it looks like he just had the intern over, whereupon he left junk lying around the house including clothing, but he did not in fact sublet the job. So whew.

It's still a weird thing for the intern to have done, but he's a bit of a weird bird, so I believe it.

In related other news, our sunroom plants are ridiculously massive. They are huge. The housesitter joked that he almost stopped watering them because they scared him. I'll have to post another picture.

Allyson, If it is a sinus infection you need a doctor. And if it is not a sinus infection you still need a doctor to find out WTF is going on. If it is sinus, cold wet cloth over the entire nose (leave nostrils free for breathing), and forehead and eyes will help. Better than ice cause you can leave it as long as it takes. Won't make pain go away, but might make pain less. Just to get you through until you can see doctor.

Skippity to the end of the thread. Hello all. I have just been asked to head the technology task force while the head of technology is out on family and medical leave, and I am in the process of beginning my recertification for National Boards. And I have piles and piles of grading. And final exams are in less than two weeks. And I'm applying to be the English department chair starting next year.

I think there may be something clinically wrong with me. I mean, apart from what I already know is clinically wrong with me.