The couple of times I've know the pair who has had a public proposal - the proposal was perfect for their relationship. One was a scoreboard proposal at the A's with the cameras catching her reaction. She was absolutely thrilled. The other was more of a scavenger hunt proposal and again, it was something that delighted the bride to be.

This suggests peer pressure to say yes. [link]

I'd guess that most public proposals are happening after the couple in question has had several "we should get married someday" conversations to the point where the actual asking is a formality, in which case peer pressure doesn't apply.

If it's a surprise public proposal, HELL NO THAT IS NOT OKAY.

This is either very sad or funny: Marriage Proposal Rejected at BasketBall Game

eta: Oops - video x-posty!

That's my theory.

Normal temps around here in December are low 30s. Instead we've been having single digits.

So no, not just perception.

I do.

I almost took you seriously.

I think there is peer pressure to say yes in a public proposal, but you know what? I think there's also peer pressure to say no. People just want a show. Different people want different show. Me, I'm always going to vote for a no and a glass of beverage to the face, because that's how I roll.

But I rarely think so poorly of a random proposer to think he's the kind of dick who thought he'd get a no if he did it in private, so that's why everyone's around.

I've seen reviewers and commenters saying Disney is embarrassed, but sales weren't bad for it, and they're building up a lot of demand pulling it now.

But I rarely think so poorly of a random proposer to think he's the kind of dick who thought he'd get a no if he did it in private, so that's why everyone's around.

I don't think it's deliberate - I have no doubt that guy in video never even questioned what the answer would be. But that doesn't mean he was right in thinking that she would leap at it, and if she's not 100% sure, or having doubts herself, the effect is still there.

I'd guess that most public proposals are happening after the couple in question has had several "we should get married someday" conversations to the point where the actual asking is a formality, in which case peer pressure doesn't apply.

If it's a surprise public proposal, HELL NO THAT IS NOT OKAY.

OK, yeah, that sounds about right.

I don't know -- I had a friend who got surprise-proposed to in a restaurant, and said no, and that was bad enough. I'm generally skeptical of Event Proposals of any kind, though. I kind of figure you should both decide that you want to get married together, and do it via conversation.

Gah Jesse, you're just SO SENSIBLE!