Giles ,'Chosen'
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, pandas, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
I don't like the vibe of "you didn't do what I wanted, so no sex for you!" Withholding affection to control someone strikes me as very Rules-y and not indicative of a healthy relationship.
Relocating uncleaned dishes or laundry so that they'll be in the way of something he'll want to do, however, is poetic justice.
I don't like the vibe of "you didn't do what I wanted, so no sex for you!" Withholding affection to control someone strikes me as very Rules-y and not indicative of a healthy relationship.
When DH does something that pisses me off, it puts me off the mood for having sex with him. I fail to see how that's controling or unhealthy.
yeah, I wasn't actually serious, but it would put me off the mood too.
ION - showers, still awesome.
I've been NGA for too long. I'd probably fuck him on the laundry AND the dishes.
I'm with Jess. If I'm pissed off, I don't want to have sex with you. I see Matt's point if you're withholding just for punishment, but if you don't want to have sex, where's the withholding.
Personally, I don't see the point of withholding. I mean, I don't get any either! I'd much rather have the fight, everybody get their issues in the open, then have make up sex.
ION, is "there's nothing on the curb marking the no-parking zone" a valid reason for fighting a parking ticket? I just got hit with $115 for allegedly parking too close to a fire hydrant. (In a spot that's nearly always occupied on our block and I've never seen a car ticketed for it before. Since the curb doesn't have any yellow paint on it marking where the 8-ft boundary is, people in the neighborhood use a tree on that side of the street as a good-enough guess.)
I can see annoyance killing the mood in the short term, but when it becomes a reward/punishment pattern rather than both partners expressing their feelings for one another I think things are all screwed up.
Cash, I say saran wrap the DH! That'll learn him. Or at least be amusing for you.
Too many tomatoes in my CSA. I may need to make a sauce, or something.