I guess, Jesse, I didn't mean hard. I meant scary. And it is. It's also possibly more maddening for her than it would feel for me because I had a buffer between me and the system for much of the really hard part. And I've always had a super supportive team of people who oversaw Noah's care and still oversee Grace, people who knew how to navigate it all.
Spike: We got a history, him and me. Fred: What? Spike: It was a long time ago. He was a young Watcher, fresh out of the academy when we crossed paths. It was a, what-you-call battle of wills and blood was spilled. Vendettas were sworn. It was a whole-- Fred: My God you're so full of crap. Spike: Yeah. Okay.
'Unleashed'
Natter 64: Yes, we still need you
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Kat - Dec 05, 2009 6:10:44 pm PST #23287 of 30001
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo
Zenkitty - Dec 05, 2009 6:13:00 pm PST #23288 of 30001
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
I can only hold him up with one arm for so long, when he sits in my lap (in between me and my laptop) with his head in the crook of my arm.
Leo does this same thing, often with his head tucked under my chin. It's so very cute. I just hope my work laptop doesn't die of cat hair before its lease is up.
Jesse - Dec 05, 2009 6:14:07 pm PST #23289 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
I'm not saying you need to win some competition, but maybe this will make her understand your situation more? I don't know.
OMG -- my cat is back on my lap! ISTG.
Kat - Dec 05, 2009 6:15:54 pm PST #23290 of 30001
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo
Jesse, that's exactly what I keep thinking. We don't talk, but I keep probing K to see if she senses a shift. But I'm not so subtle in my probing (no surprise to you all) and I'm getting unsatisfactory answers.
I think I'm going back to delete my entry. I've vented. I don't need to let bad juju hang out for the universe to read.
§ ita § - Dec 05, 2009 6:19:30 pm PST #23291 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
I'm sure the fact of the former relationship gets in the way of empathy and may continue to, for a while. Objectively, I don't see how anyone can not get that you had a hell of a lot to cope with, and even now have a fair amount on your hands.
sarameg - Dec 05, 2009 6:22:38 pm PST #23292 of 30001
They make me so much more attractive.
I think the thing is, I become so much more attractive TO ME when I'm holding one. Though...that's changing too. Don't know what to do with it, but the "but I'm PRETTY" is an annoying refrain of late. Confidence, such an odd creature. Never though I lacked it, but I'm coming to appreciate a new side of it.
No licking the trim. I'm thankful I don't have kids, because then it would be a big issue. I know my neighbor Ben basically stripped his whole house down and removed stuff before moving in because he has a now 3 year old. I can't imagine.
As for K's ex, yup, scary. You can feel compassion alongside exasperation. It's allowed. I'm on the outside, yet when I try to explain to friends even more on the outside? It's odd. And I'm at a distance.
Kat - Dec 05, 2009 6:23:51 pm PST #23293 of 30001
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo
Well yeah. Obviously.
In completely non-related news, K and I are at loggerheads over children's shoes. I tend to buy brown dress shoes or black dress shoes from places like stride rite. A few months ago K bought him some black New Balance sneakers and today she bought him Adidas Pro Shell. It makes me want to roll my eyes and point out that the shoes are not good for his feet! And she hates the shoes I buy him and calls them nerd shoes.
Though I did win on the underpants argument.
-t - Dec 05, 2009 6:25:03 pm PST #23294 of 30001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Having run a Cascade load shortly after a Wave load, I'm pretty sure the unsatisfactory results have not been the detergents fault. Something is clogging up the spinny parts of my dishwasher. Which is easy enough to take apart and clean, but it seems like I just did that. It was probably longer ago than I think.
msbelle - Dec 05, 2009 6:26:14 pm PST #23295 of 30001
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
I am on to Season 2 of Leverage. Please let me never see the scenes of Nate with his son again. I still love Parker.
sarameg - Dec 05, 2009 6:27:23 pm PST #23296 of 30001
But does he get the green underpants?
His pref cracks me up.
Grace's nerd shoes were perfect, I have to say.
Broke the gingerbread getting it into the ziploc. Oops. But tastes awesome, high spice. Begs for plain whipped cream. Extra spice was a good call. Pumpkin bread is cooling now. I want to lick my house, it smells so good.