Drusilla ,'Conversations with Dead People'
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
I'd love to comeover to help but (1) I can't afford a flight and it would take forever and who would sub my classes? (2) I'm shit at color selection.
I meant to dye my hair tonight. To no avail. Why am I so tired? What is WRONG with me? Granted I'm up at 4:00 each day.
What relation is it to my walls? It's a neutral I have become very fond of. It's warm, but not blah and not too dark. Creamy.
I quail at painting. I have ideas, but no clue.
I am no role model for Mac (eta: or Kat). I'm putting off cutting my hair. I brought my laundry up and it's all slightly damp. Cannot be arsed to get the clippers out.
Did everyone everywhere insert "hey motherfucker get laid, get fucked" into "Mony, Mony"? One retro bar where we hung out that did performances to songs (Colin worked there and performed--it was cute) put something like "get laid get AIDS" in there instead.
I was wild and crazy and had tomatoes with dinner. Apparently they burn my lips instantly now. What's with that?
My mom went to a Tom Russell concert last night, and after hearing about it, I told her she had such a girlcrush on him. And then had to explain that term.
Did everyone everywhere insert "hey motherfucker get laid, get fucked" into "Mony, Mony"?
Yes.
he only gets the DS on the subway, in cars, waiting for karate, and 20 min in the house on Friday night. No DS in the house because otherwise it causes fights. I really try to not go to a punishment reward structure because it doesn't work with mac (doesn't work for most attachment issue kids), I state expectations, express frustration/anger/disappointment, give him space to process, go back to him and offer a way out of the the position he has put himself in as the "bad kid", maybe recycle those last two 3-4 times, get on with things I have to do up to and including going to bed myself with it unresolved. Exhausting, but working toward the right direction and approved by our two mental health professionals. Where most kids will come around to what a parent tells them because they don't want the disapproval, punishment, or disruption - attachment issue kids just keep refusing and ask "what happens if I do/don't" - ratchet up the bad behavior if told a punishment - keep refusing and say "you can't make me" which often times you really can't or if you can, it get really ugly/dangerous - refuse to let you do anything but deal with them (pull apart knitting, rip books, turn off tv/computer/music, flip lights on and off in the room, pour water on the bed you are heading towards). SO really it is a LOT better, you all are just my surrogate partner, I need someone to vent to who is safe and won't look at me like I am horrible/crazy/both.
and I haven't tried everything and the mac location of behavior and needs is ever moving so strategies are always welcome.
Did everyone everywhere insert "hey motherfucker get laid, get fucked" into "Mony, Mony"?
In NJ in the early nineties, it was "Hey you slut get laid get fucked." And nobody seemed to notice that we were shouting that at bar and bat mitzvah parties.
msbelle, you are not horrible or crazy. You are amazing.
YES. Definitely amazing. I don't know very much about attachment issues kiddos. I am in awe of your strength and how much you obviously care for very lucky Mac. I really hope you don't feel like I wrote out that idea due thinking you're venting too much or something. Not the case at. all.
[edited for clarity on last couple of sentences]
and megan walker made me cry. no fair from a really knows me not just person in the box.