{{Fay}} I get it. I'm another that was more upset for others than me. I think I get my fathers parents more now than I did as a child. And I am way more like my father's mother than makes any sense. Except that I find more humor in the way I behave. I know it is ridiculous to have rules about grill cheese sandwiches.
On sunday we pulled up a giant clump of whit irises. I put it on my local egroup telling people to come get it if they wanted it. 6 to 8 people said they wanted it. No one has actually bothered to come pick it up off the end of my driveway. So it will go on top of the green bin.
Now , if it had just sat there, whatever. But if they wanted it , why not come get it? Why email me and not bother to get it? Seriously, I live less than a mile from most of these people.