I'm sure you had to be there, but to me, what Em said sounded purely practical and probably reflected her hearing adults say things like "If you need me, call."
I understand how you feel, java; I feel that way when people talk about being close to their fathers. Mine never kept a promise to me and as the drinking got worse, he got meaner. Looking back, I can feel sorry for him. He had an isolated childhood with a super-controlling father and a crazy mother, and he had mental illness that wasn't diagnosed until his 50s. He was also smart and funny and a great story teller, and I like to think I got some of that from him. He spent his last years in a nursing home in a dreadful physical and mental state. I have never missed him, but I have missed what he might have been.
Oh, I haven't gotten any in forever, either. I'm just taking the chance to poke at her here and say "Zombies? I like zombies ..."
I need to write more of it first. I'm sorry!
P-C, you want to read it? I'd love your take on it.
My dad and I are too alike to be close in a talky-meat kind of way - our phone conversations are comically monosyllabic. So I'd say I'm close to both of my parents in different ways.
Separated at birth, we are!
Lillian's fonder of Paul. He's more fun than I am, and less prone to retreating into his own head. But I'm the fixer of sorrow and needs, or something.
Will send. Um, in a minute. I have to get it off the other computer.
Hey, is your profile address the current one?
I'm closer to Mom than I am with Dad. Mom and I have closer values about things and as she's gotten older she's become more accepting of things, people, and situations. Dad is..well Dad. I love him.
Dad, being Dad, called Mom to say he was in the hospital, in the ER. He had chest pains in the morning and called 911. At the time the blood tests said he had a heart attack.
But he didn't! his heart cath came back clear (except he has some plaque build up) but he's fine and goes home tomorrow. There was some minor drama about me getting time off for the afternoon. Although since I didn't have my car 3 people offered to take me to the hosptial since was right around the corner.
See this morning my brakes were acting funny. However, when Mom went to take it to the repair place it was fine, and she had it checked out and they said it was probably due to the high water and wetness or something.
Anyway. Dad did not have a heart attack! Although after driving straight through to Charleston Thursday, and coming back on Sunday (and walking in rain and puddles to teach class last night) he stayed up until 1 am grading papers.
He's burned the candle at both ends for ever and doesn't look to stop, but hopefully he'll slow down.
And I got home to a jury summons which I'd be rather excited about except it falls during a bad time at work so I need to see if I can get a postponment.
Also, Aimee I hope your surgery goes well and everything is good.
I'm close to both of my parents, but in very different ways. I do the day-to-day chatting with mom. We share crafting and cooking, and just the every day stuff. Dad I run to when I need help problem-solving...whether it be money, writing, relationships, whatever. Mom REALLY isn't good at that stuff, though she thinks she is. She's actually told me to stop freaking out before because I didn't have time for a breakdown. Not the most helpful...
Total Bitch question! I'm in search of the perfect dress for graduation and my party. Where should I be looking?
I am scarily like my mother. I am much closer to my dad. My sister is much more like my dad and has a much closer relationship to Mom.
Freud would have a field day with this.
In my family, Aimee = Jody and Jody = Aimee. Hence her conflating me with her. And also the reason I tend to go to my dad first. I know how I'd react, so I don't go to Other Me.
