I second what Kristin said. I've gotten similar advice in the past, and I'm trying to follow it.

I talked on the phone with my current potential future wife yesterday. She has a nice voice and giggles a lot. So it's nothing thrilling as of yet, but it's not terrible. I just feel like, shouldn't there be someone out there that I think is AWESOME and not just...acceptable? Or is a month of e-mails and one phone call not enough to judge by anyway?

Sean , I 'm going to echo PixKristin and say I'm sorry I couldn't say anything last night. From someone I consider rather woo- woo in thinking I heard the best advice " envision what you want, not what you don't want". You have to move to what you want -- not away from what you don't want.

Matt's traveling today Oddnesses so far. Some one who was dressed old school punk. He has no idea how they got through security. and someone else carrying a guitar, loosely wrapped in bubble wrap.

Ooooh. All sound pretty. I shall watch sales!

It's a princessy dress. And nicely retro. I'd like to wear it with something like this [link] but that is probably too much heel until I get my toesies fixed.

(Which, incidentally, is why I thought of the shoes just now -- Mamma Tep's health insurance. I had to cancel the tootsie surgery when I lost my job last year (right after I told them about the tootsie surgery and accompanying time off). Hmmm...)

shouldn't there be someone out there that I think is AWESOME and not just...acceptable?

I think there should be. There must be. I hope there is.

Man, I would sell a kidney if I could get Dylan into a daycare that ONLY cost $8-10k/year.

You have to get happy with yourself before you can be truly happy with someone else. I know that's a cliche, but it's true. You seem to be looking to get happiness from someone else, and that isn't a healthy place to be. I get that you are lonely, and I get that you had a hellish relationship with S that really hurt you and made you feel even more alone much of the time, and that sucks. We are here for hairpats and validation that yes, that was horrific, and no one deserved to go through it. We are also here for hairpats and validation that you are smart, fun, funny, and cute--not a troll at all. We aren't lying, but if you refuse to believe it, that's on you.

What Kristin Said! She is smart!

Or is a month of e-mails and one phone call not enough to judge by anyway?

Depends. Might not be. I met DH in 2nd grade? He asked me out in high school -- I said no. If you can be friends leave it there. All relationships have there own pace. Slow works. and I know others that have moved fast

(note; I don't do fast. for example, if someone I just met asked me out -- I'd probably say no just because I don't know them well enough. Hopefully I could say something that would make them understand that I just need to meet someone more than once)

Slow works.

Not when I have to find a wife by December. Heh.

She has a nice voice and giggles a lot. So it's nothing thrilling as of yet, but it's not terrible. I just feel like, shouldn't there be someone out there that I think is AWESOME and not just...acceptable?

Do not marry a giggler. You have been warned.

Not when I have to find a wife by December. Heh.

Or what? The bomb explodes? The terrorists win?

I need some help on making a decision that I am being flaky about.

My brother is getting married in Minneapolis. Flying has never really been an option as it is too cost prohibitive flying between DTW and MSP because both are main NWA hubs. I toyed with the idea of the train, but too long and too spendy. Renting a car and driving isn't all that bad an option, but still up there with the spendy. The front-running option at this point is the MegaBus. I can get all three of us there and back for less than $300, but the bus out of Minneapolis leaves at 7:00 am. Which means being up around 5:00 am the morning after my brother's wedding. Which, can I say, UGH??? But, my sister and her hubby are supposed to take the trip with us. The only other option that is cheaper is to either ride with my parents or ride with my sister and her hubby. Which ... neither is appealing, really.

Someone make my decision for me.

Are these too casual?