I don't think I've ever gotten advice to fake an interest in something. I'd be pretty bad at that, anyway. My mother has told me to pretend not to know things that I do know, because men don't like women who seem smarter than them.

Response from Mom: What if he can't cook?

then he'll starve or go out.

What if he's really not happy unless he comes home to a meal, and he wants that meal to have meat?

then he should find someone else to marry

This whole "helpless male" bullshit annoys the hell out of me. You are a fucking adult. Either you learn to fend for yourself or you find a way to get what you want by yourself. I don't understand why it's acceptable for men not to be able to take care of themselves or to do anything other than sit on their asses and be waited on. Learn how to cook, clean or whatever, or pay someone to do it for you.

It's kind of like the way that my brother gets pissed off when someone says that he's "babysitting" his daughter. He says "I'm not "babysitting", I'm parenting my child!"

I have been also told I'm the perfect woman, what with the fighting and the computers.

Not sure who I'm perfect for, because they haven't shown up yet--the only guys that think me liking guy things makes me more attractive aren't actually attracted to me.

It's kind of like the way that my brother gets pissed off when someone says that he's "babysitting" his daughter. He says "I'm not "babysitting", I'm parenting my child!"

Word.

Not sure who I'm perfect for, because they haven't shown up yet--the only guys that think me liking guy things makes me more attractive aren't actually attracted to me.

Amen, sister.

One of my friends was very confused -- lots of people gave her cookware when they got married. Somehow she still didn't know how to cook. (Wedding gifts from very trad people -- this meant they really meant it for her)

I think it's sexy, ita. Not that helps your dating prospects any. OMG, people, I'm having such attendant drama right now. Being Special blows goats.

I wouldn't have any problem with the future Mr. Vortex not being able to cook--as long as he shuts the fuck up and eats what he's served. Now, I'm not saying that he's not allowed to have an opinion or preferences, just that he's not allowed to dictate what we eat unless he's cooking it or paying for it :)

DH admits to me very sheepishly that he LOVES it when he comes home and dinner is ready--but that really only happens about 20-30% of the time. He cooks his share, we order or go out and sometimes, we figure out dinner together.

My dad is a much better cook than my mother and would often fix dinner when he got home from work. But he sucks at clean up.

I'm making sure my kids are both comfortable in the kitchen and can think and cook on the fly for themselves, no matter what.

I also think that feigning interest in anything is sort of bullshit in a relationship. You either enjoy something or you don't. DH doesn't love everything I do and vice versa. We RESPECT each others interests but don't have to pretend to love it.

I also think that feigning interest in anything is sort of bullshit in a relationship. You either enjoy something or you don't. DH doesn't love everything I do and vice versa. We RESPECT each others interests but don't have to pretend to love it.

Congrats to BillyTea on the university thing.

Rock on brotha to MM! Good to see your digits in here.