It's bullshit that they can somehow say it's okay for *some* gay people to be married, but then no more.

Exactly! I can only imagine how frustrating this is for all the couples whether they managed to get married during the brief window of opportunity or not. What is the next step?

Well, Bobby has plain old strep throat and nothing more dire. The doc also looked at his leg which is about 1/3 covered with scab from a bike mishap. He declared that to look appropriately gross for road burn. Back to school Thursday or Friday. DH gets strep if anyone near gets it while I have never had it. I'm trying to get him to gargle a few times a day to keep it at bay. I think I will keep with my strep free streak.

While I can understand marriage as a state in life to be recognized by state to get certain things from, I can't understand weddings.

From one day to the next, the only thing that's changed is the amount of alcohol that entered your body and the money that left your wallet. While that can be a serious test for relationships (not to mention bride and groomzilas)... Why? If relationship only should involve 2, let it be those two, and c'est tout.

So disgusted and disappointed and angry and sad right now.

Weddings at their best are celebrations, a fantastic excuse to get all of your family and friends together for one ginormous, happy party in your honor. They can suck, obviously, but the overwhelming number of them, I think, are wonderful occasions.

Which is all the more reason there should be more opportunities to have as many of them as possible. Support gay marriage!

I think the point of a wedding is to formally cement the union with the witness of your friends and family. Plus, I kinda love a good wedding.

You know, one of the arguments they've pulled out against gay marriage is that it would be a burden on small businesses, with having to provide spousal benefits to the married gay people; one line was somthing about suddenly someone who didn't have a spouse does.

So how would that be different from the old-fashioned kind of marriage?

My 24 year-old self loved the idea/execution of a formal wedding. After all, to this day I still love any excuse to dress up.

However, my 41 year-old self would just as soon run off to some deserted beach with just the beloved. Have a party afterwards for friends that's relaxed and fun.

Lessons learned over time.

suddenly someone who didn't have a spouse does.

And yet companies all over the country are extending benefits to domestic partners.

If marriage didn't exist legally couples could do what polyamorous families have done for years in order to secure the same rights as married folk: form a corporation.

A friend of mine, who's over 40 and getting married for the first time, is having a fancy wedding. She's having it in Florida, on the beach at sunset, with a reception on the hotel terrace afterwards.

Her logic is that, since she's paid up for showers, wedding presents, bridesmaid dresses, and emotional support for the brides for many years and many weddings, now that it's her turn she's going to do it up right.

If I ever got married again I don't think I'd have a big to-do unless my fiance(e)(s) were really into it.