Lorne ,'Why We Fight'
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They were taught not to speak directly about what they want and so a lot of them use this weird passive-aggressive shit which is MUCH more annoying than being forthright.
I swear, in my family, it's as much cultural as it is generational, because I see some of my cousins using this technique and it makes me nuts.
erin, I hope you got some rest last night.
when she starts yelling, it's not personal, it's just Mediterranean.
::SNORT:: That's FUNNY.
::SNORT:: That's FUNNY.
Not when you're sitting in the corner staring at the shouty woman, boggling, and thinking "This isn't how my passive-aggressive family handles confict", it isn't. :P
She seriously doesn't get me and my family, either. "You don't talk about anything. Ever." That's right. We're Anglo-Irish. The most we ever talk about is the weather...
erin, being a dispatcher is hard. You get a lot of calls where people are just too far out on the edge. I 'm sorry you had a rough one. I wish i could say there won't be others. But you do vital work and help a lot of eole.
Not when you're sitting in the corner staring at the shouty woman, boggling, and thinking "This isn't how my passive-aggressive family handles confict", it isn't. :P
It's funny because my very Cuban-American family is the same way--I'm the mutant weirdo who doesn't tend to be shouty but who doesn't understand the non-talkers either. My husband's family is just SO polite and they wouldn't dream of creating conflict whereas mine lives for conflict.
And they all wonder why I became a writer...
The DH, who comes from a shouty Jewish family, thinks it's hilarious how my family doesn't raise their voices.
My husband's family is just SO polite and they wouldn't dream of creating conflict whereas mine lives for conflict.
Yes! That's how I was raised - don't get me wrong, *masses* of conflict, but dealt with through not talking to each other for six days, rather than getting angry. I realise that this is not healthy, but it's my way. Or it was. I'm learning to be shouty now. I'm not very good at it yet, and tend just to make incoherent noise that frightens people...
The DH, who comes from a shouty Jewish family, thinks it's hilarious how my family doesn't raise their voices.
That's what cracks me up about my husband's family. The Southern trumps the Jewish in the politeness sweepstakes.
ION, I'm listening to the Grease soundtrack and flashing back to high school musical theatre.
That's what cracks me up about my husband's family. The Southern trumps the Jewish in the politeness sweepstakes.
My dad's family are German Jews. They do not shout. Ever. Actually showing that you're upset is not something that Germans do. At all. My mom's family are Polish and Russian, but mellowed by a few generations of living in New Hampshire.
They were taught not to speak directly about what they want and so a lot of them use this weird passive-aggressive shit which is MUCH more annoying than being forthright.
OH HAI Minnesota. (Apologies to Daniel and other Midwesterners, but my experience confirms that behavior.) My people are not passive-aggressive. We either Talk/Yell Shit Out or decide it's not worth it.
The Southern trumps the Jewish in the politeness sweepstakes.
That's my husband's family but with British colonial in place of Southern. Our how-to-manage-an-interfaith-marriage prep was all backwards.