Ha. Amazon just sent me a link to buy, among other things, coat racks. Suspicious! Stop stalking me, Amazon.

Not a recent job, it's been 4 years or so since I worked there. Which I know I should have done something about it but ... I hate dealing with money. Also the person I would have to deal with is ...not very nice and gossipy (for the payroll administrator ,etc not a good trait) so I didn't want to deal with -I moved . I have no job. And then I did have a job and I was going to roll things all together.

Speaking of which I have to deal with my 401K from my last job.

Right now I'm going to assume it was rolled over into an IRA and that paperwork was sent and I skimmed it and either misplaced it or threw it out in the move. The weeks leading up the move were really hectic and I was throwing away containers where I couldn't find the lid or extra bowls I had becasue they were dirty and I didn't have the spoons to wash them and take them too Goodwill.

Which also made me feel guilty but it was feel overwhelmed by dishes until I shut down and can't do anything or toss it and pack/sort until I feel overwhelmed and shut down.

It is your money, askye, but some places don't like to keep a 401K going after the employee has left. I sat on one account for 8 years after leaving that job, but the job I left just 5 months ago already wants me to move the account.

Zen, I hope you feel better today. Is there any chance you can get some fresh air today? That often helps me, and some new study just came out that reported that getting outdoors definitely helps people's mental health.

Do you people do that? I'm happy to wear jeans, sweaters, etc., more than once, but it feels weird to put them back away right away. So I put them on top of my dresser and then sometimes they just stay there.

Oh, god, yeah. My grandmother's rocking chair is where my unsoiled-but-worn clothes live. I do try to clear it off and hang up the good clothes, but I tend to pile jeans and sweaters on it. I'm trying to move the lightly-worn workout clothes into the hooks in the closet, though.

Had a nice day yesterday with an old friend who's in town, while my sister dealt with Dad. He's not doing great, and we're stepping up his level of care at the facility. I don't understand why he won't drink fluids. It's just some kind of block, and he constantly gets dehydrated. It's not exactly a good long-term solution to keep taking him to the ER for IV fluids, after all...

Anyway, I'll probably stop by and visit with him later, after I get my cake out of the oven. Hope it comes out, I've never made it before. The batter tasted nice, though.

We used to have a row of Shaker pegs along one wall in the bedroom, where H used to hang once-worn clothes. I threatened to, when we bought a house, get one with two extra bedrooms: one with a row of pegs, one high and one about waist height, all along all four walls, just for his "airing" closet, and a second bedroom full of shoe racks just for his shoes, since he won't put them in the closet with his clean clothes--or with clothes he plans to wear again. The bathroom floor was where he used to leave his shoes--so helpful for the rest of us trying to get to the shower.

He dumped a lot of clothes, and a lot more shoes, when we moved. He keeps shoes he wears a lot on the mat by the back door (I'm looking at a shoe rack to go there) or on the back porch, and has a room of his own, his rarely-used office with its own closet, to manage his wardrobe. I neither advise nor interfere, as I have a closet of my own.

Two extra bedrooms for clothes and shoes sounds lovely. I also wm loathe to put things I've worn back into a closet until they've been cleaned, and also loathe to clean things too often as it reduces their lifespan (and is a troublesome chore).

And, I just plain dislike digging around in a closet for anything. Hm. My closets are cramped and badly lit, no amount of good organizing can fix that. I need to work on more alternative solutions for managing clothes/shoe storage, like the hall tree which works really well for me. Maybe I should be using the cedar chest at the foot of the bed for everyday storage, instead of "forever storage" of quilts I never use - those I can zip into plastic bags and tuck away on top closet shelves.

Many good ideas, little actual movement.

My problem is that the older I get, the more visual I get -- if I can't see it, it doesn't exist, so I have to clothes in folded piles where I can see everything, and shoes within view (one way or another).

I'm the worst about this with the fridge. Anything that accidentally gets pushed to the back could just as well have been thrown out.

All kinds of hugs, if you like them, Zen. I know those feelings, and they're really hard to banish.

I'll take all the hugs, Amy. Thanks.

I'm around, too, at least in the evenings, for either FB messaging or texting or even the phone. Just ask Plei -- she called me once and just talked about whatever came into her head until I calmed down, and it helped enormously.

Totally willing to chatter for anyone here, if it helps.

I'm glad you were able to reach out Zen. I know how it feels. From the outside I may look like a capable adult, but the inner world is much more fraught. I still have Christmas cards I haven't mailed, and stuff of ita's that never made it to its intended person (I do plan on getting them to their homes one of these days), and my house is littered with all the stuff I haven't dealt with. One day at a time, we'll get through it.

they probably moved it. I'll deal with it.

This is just one more thing. I don't handle things well when I'm sick and I'm feeling stressed out and other things anyway. I'm trying to distract myself.