I'm sorry you're having a hard time, Zen. I'm sure you're harder on yourself than anyone else would be.

As a middle aged single white lady with only two friends and a messy house, Ginger's death did hit me hard. She had friends at the end to help, and I am scared that my two poor friends will be stuck with all of it if I die. I know that several of us have mentioned being really stuck with cleaning, and I am wondering if we should start a support group, like the losing weight people. I am just not sure I have the spoons to start it. I really like the squalor survivors support group, even if my stuff hasn't reached that level everywhere, but they do cleaning chats and accountability threads where you post, say, just three things you will do, and then come back and post you are done. [link]

Thanks, all! I'm still sort of neutrally interested. There just aren't that many jobs around here that I would be interested in, unless I really re-think my career, which I've been meaning to do for 10 years....

I have success to report! I just put away not only last week's laundry, but also several weeks' worth of worn-once clothes! Do you people do that? I'm happy to wear jeans, sweaters, etc., more than once, but it feels weird to put them back away right away. So I put them on top of my dresser and then sometimes they just stay there.

I also pulled out a few things to bring to Goodwill!

Will I manage to clean the bathroom and/or do a piece of writing I should have done last week? Stay tuned!

Zen, I will be in all day if you want to call. Drop a line if you do not still have my number, or would prefer FB.

My only outside endeavors will be dog walks, which won't be super long.

I just put away not only last week's laundry, but also several weeks' worth of worn-once clothes! Do you people do that? I'm happy to wear jeans, sweaters, etc., more than once, but it feels weird to put them back away right away.

I have a hall tree in my bedroom for just this purpose. I don't launder clothes after every wear, so clothes I wear often go on the tree. It's the same thing most people use their treadmill for.

Thanks, bonny.

Oh, a hall tree is a nice idea. I just leave stuff in a pile for a while and then put it away eventually, which I know makes no sense.

I threw away bad food out of the fridge! And did dishes! I am seriously on fire.

So I'm going through mail I hadn't opened or ignored. One of them was a statement from the last place I worked in Florida about my 401k - which was rolled over to an IRA. I thought. But the last statment said there was a withdrawl of all the money.

I never moved the money over to a different account when I had a 401K at my last job (which I should have done I know) but I thought it wouldn't matter.

Now I'm freaking out that the I've somehow forfeited the money. Is that possible? I can't call anyone until tomorrow so I'm trying to figure out what happened.

That sounds really unlikely. This isn't your most recent job? If it was recent, I would say that rolling over is probably technically taking all the money out of one account and putting it into another, but I don't really know.

Also I have mail to go through. I know there's a credit card in there somewhere.

A hall tree! I've just been using the other side of the bed.

Timelies all!

Starting to dig ourselves out of the snow here.