I have to share how thankful I am that KCD married B. She has been a great support for both my kids and I can talk with her about my concerns and get great feedback. I talk to him and get reminded of why I asked for the divorce. Both kids are going through some rough stuff right now and between B and I, we are working to help each as best as possible. How many people get so lucky with the second wife?

I am not into yard work at all--probably partly because I'm not good at it but also the whole "it requires constant upkeep". Though I suppose laundry is the same principle --weeds AND dirty clothes just keep coming! But I am very glad to (a) have a landscaper dude and (b) have made most of my yard into a patio, and most of the rest of it into bark-covered or gravel-covered no-plants areas.

So, anyone have a link for a semi-reputable online self-test thingie for ADHD? I should probably finally take a look at it.

Jilli, you could start here: [link].

Anyone else take this quiz yet? I'm curious what the average score is. [I got a 35.]

I got a 30, but I wasn't really sure how to answer some of the questions. I kinda figure MOST people could say "sometimes" or "often" about most of those questions. And who DOESN"T have trouble paying attention to a boring task, or buckling down to do something unfun?

...that said, I do think the internet has destroyed my powers of concentration. But not sure how much is that and how much is attempting to not be forgetful. I tend to be doing eight different things at once on my work computer because if I don't start that email as soon as I realize I need to send it, I'll forget, and if I don't also have the travel department tab up I'll forget I needed to book that trip, etc etc. I try to open tabs to what I"ll need to be working on even if it's not right this second, so I don't look at my open browser and go "why did I need this open again?"

I got 36 - and I do not think I am adhd. I think I should have hit rarely more often. And I have trained myself not to sit for too long a time period - Partly because it is bad for my health - and I rarely get more thn 1 to 2 hourds to do any one thing at my job. and one or two things happened before 12 - but most didn't ....

Ok, whew. My docs think I might be ADD, but medication had no effect on me, except to jack up my anxiety attacks. I'm oddly comforted to see it's not that hard to score high on that test.

Scored 19. I have a sudden flash of a long known problem of mine (my seventh grade science teacher calling me out on my glazed-over eyes) where I space out while people are talking, so I'll chant in my head "pay attention pay attention" and then the only thing that registers from the conversation is me thinking "pay attention".

I got a 31 on that ADHD test and I am most certainly NOT AD. Maybe a teeny bit hyperactive technically but I think of that more as excess nervous energy and being excellent at multi tasking. I may be fidgety as all get out and have trouble sitting still for any amount of time, but I've never had any trouble at all focusing on detailed tasks. I get shit done, and the only time I 'zone out' is during boring lectures or civil court cases. Like any human being. I kinda feel like anyone with a significant online presence is gonna score rather high on that quiz.

eta: I mean seriously, have ya'll seen what I do for fun? Try teaching pysanky-making to someone with ADHD. So not gonna happen.

No but see, ADHD--or at least, ADD people, of which I am one (definitely *not* ADHD) often have hyperfocus. Pysanky is perfect for somebody with the ability to concentrate fiercely on a task for hours and screen out all externals.

With me it's can't concentrate at all, or hyperfocus. Pick one. I just try to pick the one that best suits the occasion.

I had such scarring forced gardening experiences as a child, I hadn't ever wanted to try growing things in actual dirt. I had a container garden on my deck, and we have another container garden here. I am thinking of a raised herb bed maybe next year, though.

Our front yard -- the summers for the last two years killed it. It is a desolate wasteland of dead crabgrass. It looks awful, and it's kind of embarrassing, but I think watering lawns is terribly wasteful and expensive. The backyard is a hot mess, too, but at least there's some greenery there.

I'm just going to have to be satisfied with doing the tiny little patch in the front yard that's a fallow garden patch, and herbs and flowers in pots, because we can't spend money on re-doing the yard right now. Neighbors just gonna have to hate.