Gah, I just found out that my Health Savings account from my previous job (that I left end of June), in order to use it, I needed to have incurred expenses before my termination date.

Damn. How was I to know that? Also, due to circumstances that ended up with me leaving, I missed last year's deadline for 2011 expenses. So I'm out hundreds of $$. Bah.

She didn't know he was going to show up, right? So that moment felt very real to me.

That moment was real, but if I was reuniting with a lover after decades and I had a choice between the moment lasting a minute and perhaps not doing it onstage with a stopclock going--I know what I'd choose. That's the artifice--his choice to make it a performance piece, instead of whatever normal people do in that circumstance.

(Which is to say, I think Steph and I are on the same page, and probably -t)

Oof, that sucks, le nubian. I didn't think that was how HSAs were supposed to work.

I'm not quite on the same page, I don't think - given the backstory that was included, making the reunion part of a performance piece seems to fit their relationship. I just don't get anything from seeing it, which arguably makes it a poor choice for performance, although other people do, so that's not a strong argument.

my new job has a HSA and an FSA (oh my god, I'm going to need another degree just to understand my benefits). So when people get a HSA and FSA, the FSA is only good for non-medical benefits (like vision and dental) until I hit the deductible for HSA ($1,500). I submitted receipts for doctor's visits and dental to the FSA already and some of that will be kicked back apparently.

Why is this so complicated? The HSA rolls over, but the FSA concludes at the end of this year. Given I have a crown to get, I think these funds will be tapped all the way down.

I don't know how people who are seriously ill can navigate this bullshit. I think I'd rather go to the DMV.

given the backstory that was included, making the reunion part of a performance piece seems to fit their relationship

Fitting the relationship, sure. Affecting, no. There's nothing about that that speaks to me, and the fact that they're doing it for other people makes it so much less likely to affect me.

That's the artifice--his choice to make it a performance piece, instead of whatever normal people do in that circumstance.

Well, they are both performance artists, right? I'm not saying he couldn't have just called one day, but that's not their deal.

I'm also not saying I get or really care about performance art as a thing.

That's not how HSAs are supposed to work--they're supposed to roll over. The point is that you could in theory be saving all that cash as a young person so that you'll have it for those high deductibles as an old person

FSAs are different though.

Well, they are both performance artists, right? I'm not saying he couldn't have just called one day, but that's not their deal.

Not everyone's real experience touches me. Being real isn't enough to hit me. An also calculated minimal "poignant" interaction leaves me completely cold, and that's just as valid as Hec being touched by it, surely?

Apparently people got way smashed at the bars they went out to on Friday. I don't know how to express how much I'm not getting drunk around co-workers (unless they're the chick from my school, but yardie trumps all) and the tale of the drunk guy literally picking up the smallest developer on the team squicks me to no end...

And I just ditched a meeting with the hope that I was *told* to ditch the meeting--either he told me to not worry about attending, or not worry about editing the presentation--but five minutes before the meeting he must have meant attending...oh, I have no idea. Whatever it is, I'ma just tough it out, because conviction is key. Oh, and edit the hell out of this other presentation. Grammar and pithiness.

If someone looks at my doodles and calls me an artist, is deflecting that seen as annoying fishing for compliments? I just say I'm an enthusiastic doodler, but everyone's responded to that by upping the compliments, and that makes me feel even more self-conscious than before. I need the perfect gracious conversation-killer.