There was a situation here a year or two ago when someone left a newborn at a church, which is not considered a safe haven. And I can see why - the others are pretty much all 24/7 and populated with first responders, so it's a degree of magnitude less risky to the infant.

But I can also see why someone might assume a church would count. I think they did find the mother, but I don't recall what happened from there. Hopefully not treated the same as a freaking gas station.

I wonder if it's a lack of knowledge that makes you abandon the child at a gas station, or a lack of concern, or what?

You're freaking the fuck out and the gas station is closer than a hospital and you aren't thinking clearly?

yeah, better than a garbage can or something. despite the fact that the mother could have gone to a hospital or fire station or police station, I feel really sorry for her.

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I think the thing is, too, even in this town, which is pretty walkable, if I had given birth right here in my house, any of the local safe havens would have been really far to walk to. Especially after, you know, giving birth, when walking down the hall can really take everything you've got.

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You're freaking the fuck out and the gas station is closer than a hospital and you aren't thinking clearly?

I guess I'm thinking too much about getting away with it. I understand the moment is pretty much textbook hormonal, but it's also not probably a surprise--so there's a balance there somewhere. The idea that I'm going to be all over the news and the cops are going to be hunting me down and ITS NOT OVER (inasmuch as you can ever get a clean break with childbirth)...I guess it just seems like this means you keep freaking the fuck out.

My heart breaks for anyone who's going through this alone and doesn't at least have someone not biologically confused at the time, even if the someone else is the father who doesn't have any better ideas.

Up until a few years ago, you could abandon a child under 18 years old in Nebraska. After someone actually abandoned a teenager, the law was changed.

Ugh, it's all so sad. No one should have to figure out what to do with a baby they don't want alone.

Is there a cutesy J thing in your family, Jesse?

I am not related to these people! I mean, I guess we may be related, but distantly. Or not at all. Also, I think J is one of the most popular first initials, in general?

I was just watching the gas station story on the news. You have three days to abandon at a safe place with no consequences. ALSO! The lady who "found" the baby was solicited to meet the mother beforehand, so it's kind of a hoax.

You have three days to abandon at a safe place with no consequences.

Three days? I had thought it was longer than that....goes reading....and you have 14 days in which to change your mind.

It's not a perfect plan, but no scenario with an unwanted pregnancy brought to term can really have "perfect" applied to it, really.

The lady who "found" the baby was solicited to meet the mother beforehand, so it's kind of a hoax.

Wait, explain...the mother who abandoned the baby didn't really abandon it? She passed it off onto someone? Did she know the someone? I never actually make it to the news, because it makes me more mad than informed.