Mal: So we run. Nandi: I understand, Captain Reynolds. You have your people to think of, same as me. And this ain't your fight. Mal: Don't believe you do understand, Nandi. I said 'we run'. We.

'Heart Of Gold'


Natter 69: Practically names itself.  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Lee - Jan 03, 2012 11:02:55 am PST #14196 of 30001
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.

YAY Jen!

Speaking just for me, after the cancer diagnosis and especially finding out I was going to need chemotherapy, I decided I would rather tell people rather than go through 6 months of whispering and possibly incorrect information being passed around, so I made sure my bosses and HR and a few of the associates I worked with most knew exactly what was going on, plus went to one of the partners meetings and told all of them. I absolutely think that was the right decision for me and this work place, but I was the one making that decision, not anyone else, and I would have been really pissed if someone else had made it for me.


sumi - Jan 03, 2012 11:08:30 am PST #14197 of 30001
Art Crawl!!!

Glad to hear your good news, Jen.


Steph L. - Jan 03, 2012 11:11:41 am PST #14198 of 30001
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

My co-worker specifically authorized someone here to disclose the information about his surgery. No one shared information that they were not legally or morally allowed to share.

And I think I'm going to have to step away from the rest of this discussion.


javachik - Jan 03, 2012 11:14:11 am PST #14199 of 30001
Our wings are not tired.

It wasn't clear in your original post that your co-worker authorized an email.

I am just a private person, in general, and get really upset if I am the subject of gossip. And I think that co-workers speculating about my personal medical concerns is pretty much just gossip.


Amy - Jan 03, 2012 11:25:54 am PST #14200 of 30001
Because books.

And I think that co-workers speculating about my personal medical concerns is pretty much just gossip.

I think most coworkers would discuss it out of concern, and it also probably differs from office to office.


Jesse - Jan 03, 2012 11:29:17 am PST #14201 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

When I quit my last job to move up here, I was surprised to have a lot of people talking to me about how sad it was that my father has Alzheimer's. I was pissed that it was apparently being generally discussed around senior management, and then realized it was the story my boss could tell (to herself and others) about why I was leaving that didn't reflect on her. @@


Ginger - Jan 03, 2012 11:52:46 am PST #14202 of 30001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda

Great news, Jen.

My theory is that coworkers are going to talk, regardless, and if they don't have the correct information, they're going to make stuff up.


Lee - Jan 03, 2012 12:00:38 pm PST #14203 of 30001
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.

Plus some of them come into your office and want to hug you.


Ginger - Jan 03, 2012 12:08:16 pm PST #14204 of 30001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda

A "no hugs" policy is important.


§ ita § - Jan 03, 2012 12:23:12 pm PST #14205 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

My theory is that coworkers are going to talk, regardless, and if they don't have the correct information, they're going to make stuff up.

I seem to be, so far, out of those loops. We had a developer take a month off and the closest I heard was "It was a long time, so I guess it was medical?" And if she has been Indian, I don't know if anyone would have gotten as far as medical. I don't know, maybe they do talk about my absences, what with the from-home working above average and everything, but I've never heard them do it about anyone else.