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Natter 67: Overriding Vetoes  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, nail polish, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Typo Boy - Nov 11, 2010 8:47:53 pm PST #5092 of 30001
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.

On the other hand maybe they are benefiting the world, in the sense that the world is better off if their smug sense of entitlement is as separated as possible from other people.


Strix - Nov 11, 2010 8:52:08 pm PST #5093 of 30001
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger

I read the site, and it does appear as though there will be no contact with the outside world. Including blogging.

-t, I agree with you. One of the things they were talking about is this 2000 year old tradition of teachers doing this. Well, goodness, there is still suffering in the world. Maybe UR DOIN IT WRONG. Facetious, yes, but only a little.

And then little things like "most communication is superficial" and "how can this be selfish when most people just watch TV for 4.5 hours a day" just struck me as...smug and righteous.

People can do whatever the heck they want to do with their lives, but some of this just struck me as holier-than-thou, "The biggest gift I can give the world is me, me, me."

I am sure there are many paths to peace and happiness, but it seems so arrogant to state that the best way you know to deal with the suffering of the world is to get away from it for 3 years and think real hard.

FWIW, I'm absolutely not denigrating meditation or a devout spiritual practice. And it's weird, because if I were reading about a bunch of Tibetan monks, or Benedictine nuns or what have you doing this, I'd be all, OK, whatever. (And yes, some of the retreatants are nuns. Two or three.)

I guess my innate nature values practical, hands-on approaches to life and problems. And they aren't, I think, harming anyone. There are worse ways to check out of life for 3 years. I am so clearly not cut out to be a Buddhist!

But I do think all that money could be spent on something that would be way more helpful, like food, potable water, medicine, establishing schools, seeding thing like Heifers Intl.

My god would be a cranky, genderless form in boots and overalls, saying things like "You have opposable thumbs and a brain; fix some shit and leave me alone for a while."


meara - Nov 11, 2010 9:32:28 pm PST #5094 of 30001

Three years of silence? Hells no. But I like liese's idea of IHOS!

I also love Meyer lemons, and lemon hd5.

I like my nose from the front, but nsm from the side. I generally hate my profile and prefer to believe Everyone sees me as I see myself, in the mirror.


Beverly - Nov 11, 2010 9:42:33 pm PST #5095 of 30001
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.

My god would be a cranky, genderless form in boots and overalls, saying things like "You have opposable thumbs and a brain; fix some shit and leave me alone for a while."

This. Oh my yes, this, so much.

These people are like Anya driving with emphatic gestures. People! Stop waving and start doing.

Grace! Oh what fun! Can I offer you more vitamins, Kat?


Calli - Nov 12, 2010 2:07:04 am PST #5096 of 30001
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs

I could see wanting a retreat for a few months, or even a few years, to recover from a long period of performing actual, helpful service. One of my organization's projects involves helping to rebuild Southern Sudan's health care system. If Khartoum ends up being the bag of dicks I fear they'll be and blows up the peace agreement, I know a project manager who'll be very tempted to sit in full lotus and chant "om" for a long while. (He probably won't though--he'll just work twice as hard on our Tanzania projects.)

I think a balance between Getting Stuff Done and taking care of yourself so you remember why you're doing and can continue to do can be hard to strike. And mistaking the latter for the former doesn't strike me as particularly useful. Retreat4peace seems to be leaning way hard on the our peace = world peace side of things. It's probably no worse than spending the time and money on hookers and blow, but sanctimony is a particularly obnoxious drug to be around. Kind of like a meth lab, only less explosive.


Jesse - Nov 12, 2010 2:59:41 am PST #5097 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

a statement that the meditators had "exhausted all outer methods to fix the world"

Yeah, I haven't clicked through, but this statement seems exceedingly unlikely.


Kat - Nov 12, 2010 3:38:24 am PST #5098 of 30001
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo

I guess my innate nature values practical, hands-on approaches to life and problems. And they aren't, I think, harming anyone. There are worse ways to check out of life for 3 years. I am so clearly not cut out to be a Buddhist!

I totally agree with this! One of the participants told my yoga teacher he was doing this because he felt spiritually bankrupt. Who am I to argue?

I get that need to recharge and figure some Shit Out. But that figuring out it selfish in the same way that my checking out for essentially 2 hours a day when I go to yoga is. There is so MUCH else I need to do and is productive. And the yoga thing is about me being a better person... it still feels pretty selfish. So checking out for 3 years is inconceivable.

AND the people who are doing this with a spouse. Three years in a small self made adobe without talking? I can't figure out if that is heaven or hell. They're going to be alone together!


Liese S. - Nov 12, 2010 3:50:58 am PST #5099 of 30001
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."

Well, at least they`ll still have sex. Hee. I don`t know. I don`t want to knock the whole idea of retreating or of silence. And I`m for serious when I say I would love to do something like that. But I would be doing it because I wanted to, not so the world would be a better place when I got back.
 
That first group went in in 2000 and 9/11 happened while they were in there and they didn`t know. Was that world in 2003, one where we were again actively at war, a better world, a more peaceful world?
 
I think it can be done, but I guess I don`t like the elimination of stimuli as the only method for improving focus in meditation. It`s not my religious practice, so I don`t know from shit, but it seems like it would be a harder and better discipline to learn all those things while you knew what was going on. And at least one of the participants has elderly parents, and is concerned about their health. But the faq says participants generally elect not to hear personal news either, like a family member`s illness or death and I can`t get behind that either.
 
I guess at least prayer could be intercessory, so you`d be thinking of other people? I dunno, I left a church because they were too inwardly focused. I just think of Buddhism as I know it, and this is more woo woo than that. My mom`s whole side of the family is devoutly Buddhist and I can`t picture them doing anything like this.


Amy - Nov 12, 2010 4:11:16 am PST #5100 of 30001
Because books.

I'm trying to work out why the retreat pings me as so privileged, when I knew a woman who quit her job after saving money and traveled around the world by herself for a year, on a shoestring. That's not something most people can afford to do, either, and she knew she was really fortunate to get to do it.

I guess it's the whole changing the world with their silence that seems so ... pretentious, to be honest.


Theodosia - Nov 12, 2010 4:12:58 am PST #5101 of 30001
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"

I guess if you're going to commit to something that big, you're going to have to come up with a Big Reason to do it or you'll have to admit that it's an awful idea.