I would like a bagel.

Oh! Also! In the small world department, I'm 90% sure my high school nemesis was sitting facing me at dinner tonight. My first old-school sighting!

I would be hesitant to rebut, that is often seen as being insubordinant. It ISN'T and of course assistants should get to defend themselves, but very often responding at all is seen as being difficult if you're not ranked highly enough in the org.

So, maybe very delicately in your action plan mention that your perspective of events was different than those presented to you -- and quickly assert that you are glad to know how this was perceived and you'll fix it right away yes sir!

As far as the HR perspective... New York is an at-will state in the middle of a recession. Upstate is depressed even when there isn't a recession. You aren't (to my knowledge) part of any protected group that they would feel the need to cover their asses to fire. I don't know that they'd have any motivation to take those classic steps. I think if they wanted you gone you'd be gone pretty quickly. (But I'd also take my personal stuff off the computer at this time as access could be denied rather abruptly.)

I think its more likely that your nemisis would like you gone (either immediately or in whatever layoffs come down the pike) and your boss would rather keep you. Nem is a lost cause, but whatever can get you in your boss' good graces you should do.

I read various people on Twitter when I remember (currently enamoured of Misha Collins), but, yeah, I get my sharing jones filled here.

I would like a bagel.

I would like more bourbon and ginger.

I would like to have the sense to not make routine vet appointments for 8 am on a Saturday morning. Maybe next time.

Private Eyes is back in my head, thanks to James Roday.

Hee. I'm glad I got a heads up from Twitter via TWoP, or I would have skipped right past it (and not DVRed White Collar to catch the longer version).

Yuck, Sophia. I don't have any advice one way or the other re: rebuttal, but I do wish you the best with all this. How frustrating and unsettling.

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Separately, I have a move date! I'm going to be a Baltimorista as of a week from Sunday. Whee! Packin', packin', packin'... keep them doggies packin'.

Thank you for the advice. I have already spoken to the theatre and told them that I would need to quit if things didn't change, and Nigel has said that he is committed to doing what I need to keep my regular job happy, even if he has to find money to hire extra workers.

I think, as an assistant, I'm leaning toward Trudy-- I could have been fired right that second if my boss wanted to, and she did end the conversation saying she wanted a fresh start and for us to work together as a "salt and pepper" team. Part of my boss's issue is that I am acting like an equal, not an assistant, so I don't want to rock the boat by being even more assertive.

We get Jen! WOOHOO! And not far from me, either! I'll have to introduce you to the joys of my little hood.

I would like a bagel.

I would like more bourbon and ginger.

I'm up for another martini but aside from that I am, for the first time since Monday evening, actually pretty good.

Vibing hard for you, Sophia, and everyone's given lots of good thoughtful advice, so I'm just going to nod and point and say, "What they said." And I'm so glad that the theatre people recognize the strain they're putting on you and your regular job, and that they're trying to find ways to lessen it. And I already didn't like your work nemesis, but now I really don't like her.