I fed off a flowerperson, and I spent the next six hours watchin' my hand move.

Spike ,'Same Time, Same Place'


Natter 64: Yes, we still need you  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Sparky1 - Dec 03, 2009 10:48:46 am PST #22738 of 30001
Librarian Warlord

Erin, here's SW's policy: [link]

Each airline might be a bit different. If his son is very young, it might be reasonable to buy the extra ticket. Airline attendants can't be with the child every minute, you don't know who he'll be sitting next to, and there are sometimes problems.


Vortex - Dec 03, 2009 10:50:30 am PST #22739 of 30001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

And she's putting him in a private school that's $1100 a month. And asking for extra money for tuition. Above the $700 a month child support. And private prep school was not in the divorce agreement, either.

If she wants more money, then she can go to court and have the agreement modified. I presume that the custody agreement spells out when he is entitled to visits? If so, then it is her reponsibility to get the kid there if she agreed. How old is the kid?


Burrell - Dec 03, 2009 10:51:27 am PST #22740 of 30001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!

oh noes, msbelle. You're right, it's way better than physically lashing out, but still... not looking forward to that one.

On Monday, Isaac tried to bite my face. I know he's just been wound up and overtired lately, but I found it pretty disturbing. I was holding him and he got mad and tried to bite me, so I put him down and DH picked him up. Then Isaac started crying and wanting me to hug him.


Cashmere - Dec 03, 2009 10:52:20 am PST #22741 of 30001
Now tagless for your comfort.

Erin, would it be worth it to him to revist the custody agreement through the courts? Because those details may need to be worked out and put in writing. If he verbally agrees and pays these costs, it may be harder to argue against paying them later.

Each airline's policy is different regarding minors flying. The age (and maturity) of the child greatly weigh in on that.


msbelle - Dec 03, 2009 10:53:05 am PST #22742 of 30001
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb

If she wants more money, then she can go to court and have the agreement modified. I presume that the custody agreement spells out when he is entitled to visits? If so, then it is her reponsibility to get the kid there if she agreed.

word. stick to the details laid out in the agreement.

man parents being assholes at the expense of the child and the child's relationship with the other parent - pisses me off!


Vortex - Dec 03, 2009 10:53:45 am PST #22743 of 30001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

Cash said it nicer than me. I'm tired of people trying to take advantage of my friends.


Fred Pete - Dec 03, 2009 11:03:14 am PST #22744 of 30001
Ann, that's a ferret.

Cash, I agree with what everyone else is saying about not paying for an escort. But I also want to say, you're taking the right route by focusing on the mother. In particular, remember that it isn't R's fault that his parents are so screwed up.


Burrell - Dec 03, 2009 11:05:11 am PST #22745 of 30001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!

Cash always takes the right route, from what I've seen.


Strix - Dec 03, 2009 11:05:17 am PST #22746 of 30001
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger

He's 7. He's a great kid.

I agree, I agree. ITA. She's a bitch, and verbally abusive, and is totally fucking him, and she's exhausting to deal with. BF hates conflict, so...

I can only suggest, And I refuse to nag, and it's his decision. She's fucking him, though, and I can only be supportive and encourage him not to be fucked.

(Is it wrong for me to say, damn, I wish I could just STEP IN AND TAKE CARE OF IT?! I know, I know, I know! But I don't mind conflict, and she's the kind of person that will back down if someone stands up to her, and I just want to SMACK HER DOWN and say, Listen, here's what's gonna happen. And if you don't like it, SUCK IT. You're the one who cheated on him and decided to fuck it all up and move away to be with your boyfriend. LIVE WITH YOUR CHOICES, CHICKIE!)


msbelle - Dec 03, 2009 11:10:50 am PST #22747 of 30001
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb

Erin - he has a lawyer, right? can that person deal with her?