I've really got to learn to just do the damage and get out of town. It's the 'stay and gloat' that gets me every time.

Ethan Rayne ,'Potential'


If the Apocalypse Comes, Beep Me

Birth, death, illness, new job, vacation...if it's happening to you and you want us to know about it, post it here. These threads are intended for announcements only. Want to offer sympathy or congratulations, or talk about anything? Take it to Natter. Any natter here will be deleted.


Cass - Jan 18, 2021 9:50:44 am PST #5550 of 5654
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.

As a heads up, if peeps saw me seeming really weird on Facebook or noticed I wasn't around a lot, my thyroid was unregulated and my electrolytes were all over the place during the last couple of months. It made me make no sense and Not Be Myself especially near the end of December.

Over the course of being ill and having uncontrolled anxiety attacks, it got to the point where work people checked on me on the 29th, went to grab some food, and when they returned, I was having a focal point (like I was on pause completely) seizure when they got back.

I had my first ever grand mal seizure on the way to the hospital. I was hospitalized about a week and I had several petit mal and grand mal seizures in the first few days. My family didn't even know where I was for a couple of days. My sister flew down from Tahoe. I wasn't even myself for real until super early the morning of the 4th and I was released later that day to seek neurology care (there isn't a neurology department in my local hospital).

So after I was released, family drove me to a University ER that is known for their quality of care and specialists. I will be seeing their Epilepsy Clinic and Behavioral Health virtually and I still need an EEG. Because of the Covid crisis, I was not admitted. That is why the virtual Epilepsy Clinic and not inpatient. I was considered stable enough to be on my own. I stayed with family (who are awesome) for a few days anyway. Been back home since Friday before last.

But all signs point to it being my salt dropping super low and electrolytes doing the wacky. I am taking my thyroid meds, which've been upped and should be re-regulated soon. I am still needing to regulate my water intake, have electrolyte tablets that I use in my water and have a free for all on salt.


smonster - Feb 20, 2021 10:48:50 am PST #5551 of 5654
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

Back with my Feb fundraiser - Black History is now. Here’s the link to the fundraiser - [link] - and here’s the link to my fb post - [link]

Even $5 helps, and if you can’t spare that please “heart” or comment on my post to get more eyeballs on it (and suddenly I sound like a creepy demon).

Thanks!


amyparker - Feb 25, 2021 10:14:13 am PST #5552 of 5654
In the end it's only ever been one step, and then the next.

Hey, folks,

amyth's friend Terry posted about an hour ago. The team at the hospice center has said that "[her] days are growing very short": she is not often conscious, but comfortable and apparently not in pain.

Terry does not think it likely that we will hear from her again, or that she will be in a position to respond to emails, texts or phone calls. He has said that thoughts, prayers, and intentions are welcome.

He is with her, listening to the playlist they prepared together for this moment.

Terry told someone recently that "nurturing friendships has been Amy's lifework, and you all were the proof". To which, let the people say "yes".


javachik - Mar 13, 2021 5:36:46 pm PST #5553 of 5654
Our wings are not tired.

Hello dear ones, Smonster and I are posting in tandem - she’s covering the FB Buffista page.

Tonight around 6:15 eastern, our bright and lively and wonderful Amyth passed after several days of lying in sleeping peace. I know she meant so much to so many, both on and off this community board. She made everything richer by being part.

Love to all tonight. I’ll be lighting a candle and wearing my Star Wars hoodie from when we saw the premiere in NYC in 2015.


amyparker - Mar 20, 2021 2:18:39 pm PDT #5554 of 5654
In the end it's only ever been one step, and then the next.

Terry has shared amyth's obituary; I'm reposting here:

Amy Elizabeth Preble August 18, 1971 - March 13, 2021

Amy Preble, beloved friend, sister, sister-in-law and aunt, died on March 13 at Transitions Hospice in Raleigh of complications from leukemia. She was 49 years old.

Amy grew up in Garden City, Long Island, where she attended Sacred Heart Academy. After graduating she moved to Chapel Hill, where she attended the University of North Carolina and earned a Bachelor of Arts in Women’s Studies. Amy loved the Chapel Hill-Carrboro community and lived there for the remainder of her life. Amy was a proud feminist and advocate for women and the victims of sexual violence. She volunteered and served several terms on the board of the Orange County Rape Crisis Center, including serving as its president.

A passionate advocate for sustainability and environmental stewardship, Amy worked for more than twenty years in the Office of Waste Reduction and Recycling at UNC Chapel Hill, where she served as Waste Diversion Coordinator. She also chaired the Collegiate Recycling Coalition, serving multiple terms, as well as serving in leadership roles on the Carolina Recycling Association board of directors. She had only recently begun graduate work in sustainability at Appalachian State when she received her leukemia diagnosis in the fall of 2019.

Amy’s true life’s work, however, was the cultivation and nurture of her many friendships. From schoolmates at Sacred Heart and UNC, to her many colleagues in the sustainability field, to the global Buffista community (where she was known online, fittingly, as “Amyth”), Amy brought people together and kept those bonds alive. Friendship was indeed her life, and now it’s her legacy. Thanks to her, those of us left behind are blessed to have each other for comfort as we all grieve her loss. Together we remember her love of music, of books and movies, of miniature poodles, and of all things Marvel.

Amy asked that any memorial service be delayed until it is safer to gather, hopefully in the late spring or summer. In the meantime, those who wish may remember Amy with a charitable donation to the Carolina Recycling Association’s Amy Preble Scholarship Fund, or to the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society of America.


smonster - Mar 23, 2021 1:45:45 pm PDT #5555 of 5654
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

Hi - my March fundraiser only has a few days left, and once again I have not pushed it the way I meant to. It’s been a month, but then isn’t it always? If you got your stimulus and don’t need all of it for essentials, or just have a little extra room in your budget, please consider kicking in at least $5-10. My parents gave us kids some of their stimulus so I have pledged $90. We do have a $300 match, and I hope to raise $1000 total this month.

[link]


javachik - Apr 15, 2021 1:02:29 pm PDT #5556 of 5654
Our wings are not tired.

Hi everyone, Amyth left me some sentimental items to share with this community.

She bestowed a few pieces of lovely fun costume jewelry, and a few of Scola’s framed works. I hope to have enough keepsakes to send to any of you who would like a memento. You’ll be happy to know that The Corset is finding a perfect new home with Vortex.

I was going to take some photos next week of the jewelry and prints and post them to the FB page, but not everyone has an account there. So instead I’m taking a different approach. Please email me (profile addy good) if you would like to be considered for a memento. Please don’t reply to me on the board because I’m thousands of posts behind in the threads and won’t see it.

I’ll post same to FB page, and then be able to match items based on interest that way.

ETA: just realized it’s probably a good idea to put some sort of time constraint on this! Please email me by Monday April 19. Thanks!


javachik - Apr 19, 2021 10:41:49 am PDT #5557 of 5654
Our wings are not tired.

Very gentle reminder to email me today if you’d like a memento of Amyth’s.


amyparker - Apr 29, 2021 7:59:59 am PDT #5558 of 5654
In the end it's only ever been one step, and then the next.

My father is in the hospital (I jokingly said last night that it was about the only reason he'd miss our weekly call, and I have never been more sorry to be right); he was able to text me this morning from his wife's phone, and actually apologized for missing the call OMG why are we like this

Dad has metastatic prostate cancer. His scans last week were good, but.


Jessica - May 22, 2021 9:01:44 am PDT #5559 of 5654
If I want to become a cloud of bats, does each bat need a separate vaccination?

Hey! If any Buffistas would like a complete box set of Supernatural on BluRay, hit me up!

[In case I wasn't clear, I am offering these for free / postage. DH was sent them as swag, I'm just trying to pass them onto a good home!]