I get disappointed with the gay community running around saying, "It's biological. It's not a choice." Because the implication is that if gays could CHOOSE something, they would choose to be straight

I do know gay guys (happy being gay) who are clear on if they'd had to choose, this wouldn't have been it. But it's not a regretful thing -- just that if there's an "easy" way open to you, why not do that?

As for "it's not a choice" to me - it's just as implacable to me as my gender or my race. I don't regret either of them, and even with the "easy choice" option, I wouldn't bother, other than out of curiosity, trying to be a guy or white. I'm a black woman. It wasn't a choice.

I choose to love her. Love can be a choice.

But it's not a choice everyone can make. Rupaul can't, and, say, Katie Holmes can't. And still be true to themselves.

I actually think love is always a choice. I'm not talking about (or at least not exclusively) the sexual attraction component of love. Actually loving someone in a meaningful way (which is more about your own actions than the warm fuzzies the person inspires in you) is a choice, and a decision, and it is the actions/treatment that counts.

Katie Holmes can't

Well that's because of the brainwashing.

Well that's because of the brainwashing.

Damn those space clams.

I choose Lori because she's an amazing, intelligent, funny, caring, capable, sexy, dynamic person. I choose to be in a relationship with her. I choose to love her. Love can be a choice.

Just wanted to see this again.

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And then, some choices bite you in the ass.....

Not to change the subject, but all of a sudden I am so very much looking forward to fall. I have an image in my brain of me walking on a sunny, cool and crisp autumn day, wearing my leather jacket, stepping on golden leaves....

My brain is very attuned to seasons - I discovered this while living in San Francisco.

Since I needed some pictures for a directory, I thought I'd share them.

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the wives held a meeting in the parking lot,

How cute! I wonder if there was queueing at any point...

I'm wondering about double bigamy -- is bigamy something you do to the first wife, therefore double bigamy means you've married two women other than her? Because I'd call it triple bigamy otherwise. Or ... trigamy.

Well, skanky. I'd certainly call it that.

trigamy

Yeah. Or... biggeramy.

Love is a choice., no doubt in my mind. I chose Matthew. There is all the beginning stuff but the way I feel about him goes way beyond that.Even when I am really angry - it is there. And it is because I chose to let him get that close to me. It is why the concept of an affair boggles my mind. Yes, it would be a betrayal of him. But more importantly, it would be a betrayal of a choice I made along time ago (and everyday).